It was women's day, I was in little cool and a happy mood. I'm on the social media page where I make memes and traditional posts with my senior friends. So I opened my cell and started to create a post about women's day. It was a post to wish our female admins. I was desperately searching for an image for one hashtag, and finally, I found one relevant pic for the hashtag. I edited and shared it with our group before uploading it. One co-admin praised me for the image which I chose for a relevant hashtag. But it was deeply disliked by the admin of the hashtag. she immediately left the group.
At that time I didn't realize she left the group because of me. I immediately messaged her privately and asked her the reason for leaving the group. Initially didn't say but later she elaborated to me how much she loved the hashtag. She can tolerate anything but can't tolerate anything about the hashtag. I said sorry and asked her not to leave the page.
After saying sorry I started to think about what mistake I made. After a few minutes, I realized the post which I edited was not from her perspective. I only thought about what I wanted. Dale Carnegie taught me a lesson 'if you want to win friends think about what they want.' You may think it's a silly one but for me, it's a mistake. People are not interested in what you want, they never gonna ask you. So I'm extremely sorry for my mistake and thank her for realizing my mistake. This was my first mistake.
It was around the second week of March. Tell me one thing, when you say everything about yourself or your all feelings to a person. Later the person ignores you or acts as if he/she knew nothing about you. Tell me, tell me how it feels?
I'm always wondering what kind of chit-chat today's lovers do!? When you say everything about yourself in the early days of love. Then what will be there to share every day? (I'm only talking about chat) daily good morning, good night, tea, coffee, dinner, and what!? Nothing.
If this happened in your life then you will easily understand what I'm saying. Only dumbs will repeat this kind of mistake. And I'm that dumb. After the first accident (love), I decided not to share much about myself or my life. Days went on I was a bit normal. I met a new friend, she's too emotional and also a humorous person. Initially, we started to chat on Instagram. Later it went to WhatsApp, then voice msgs, and then calls. We both use to pull each other legs, and cracked many jokes. I still remember my promise to not share anything about myself with anyone.
As I mentioned above in the second week of March I was feeling so uncomfortable. I want to be a good listener, I use to listen to her a lot but later I started to say about myself most. I forgot my promise. I pressured her to listen to my thoughts, ideas, feelings, etc. I forgot to see things from her perspective.
That week I realized I was making a mistake by sharing my feelings with her. I thought she too have similar feelings about me but I was wrong. At that moment I realized I was dumb. It was my second mistake. Everyone learns from their mistakes but I was repeating them. When I shared my feelings she acted as if she knew nothing about them, I felt very bad, I broke down. Her praises were just flattery. I'm not criticizing her, I failed to understand her. Currently, I'm trying to live in the present not thinking much about the past and future, learning new things. Let's see where it reaches.
Take what is useful discard what is not
-Hrk
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